On this week’s ME{N}U: Toast..French or Cajun? Timing is everything

MOST THINGS IN LIFE REQUIRE GOOD TIMING

I burn everything at least once. And my kids never let me forget about it. Bread is most often the casualty. Garlic bread, biscuits, toast…especially toast…they all have been singed under my not so watchful care. You may make a great french toast. I make a mean Cajun toast–blackened that is. The difference? Timing. Timing in cooking is indeed everything. Timing in life is everything.

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What a difference a day makes

The timing of this post lies almost one week after my daughter’s twelfth birthday. (So forgive any non-sensical wording please. One tends to rebound slowly after dealing with ten to twelve preteen girls hopped up on sugar for several hours.) I love to wake my kids at the midnight that crests their big day. One day my precious girl was eleven and the next–boom–twelve. Just in the matter of a second. How many things in life hinge on one second? Babies are born. Lives are saved by a split second. But how many seconds of our day are wasted on nothingness because we are not paying attention? My assessment, from personal experience, one second too many.

Pay attention to timing

Toast quickly turns from buns to briquettes when we stop paying attention to timing. Life quickly slips by us in the same manner. Missed opportunities. Unseen milestones. Futures altered. Life to death. All in the matter of a moment.

Timing is too precious to forget about. 

I am still a novice in this blogosphere, but already I am keenly aware of a few timing lessons.

Timing can place me with the right people at just the right moment, if I pay attention.

Using time wisely will keep me productive and poised, if I pay attention.

Ill use of timing and its principles will cost me dearly with my goals and with my relationships.

Just this morning because of misuse of time, this blog was delayed and if I had not caught myself, I could have missed a precious toddler moment. While trying to redeem my time and focus on finishing my work, I found myself literally pushing my toddler away from me. To my credit, he was about to jump over my head and onto my laptop which would not have been good for either of us. All he wanted, though, was to sit by me. His favorite line now is “Mommy, I need you.” Heart-melting  I know. Now add big brown eyes and curly brown hair…miss a moment with that! Not this Momma. That would be bad timing.

So, how’s your timing? 

Your life is made of many to do lists and deadlines, moments and madness, that you will have to journey  through. Time, your attention to it, how you use it, and how it uses you is something we all need to revisit in our lives. Don’t worry though. It’ll just take a second.

Taking my time and loving it. And always staying,

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On this week’s ME{N}U: New and Improved Lemonade for Life

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.

What a dumb metaphor. I am sorry Mr. Elbert Hubbard circa 1915. This metaphor contains a huge flaw, besides being painfully quaint. When life gives me lemons, I usually just want to throw them back and yell, “I didn’t ask for any stupid lemons!” You probably already agree but what can we do? Life. Sometimes it brings bad things, sour things, distasteful things that we can’t throw back. But taking just lemons and making lemonade…bad idea. Let me explain my take on this by sharing with you a personal story first.

Taste this, Mommy!

My daughter made me lemonade once when she was ten. She was so proud on that hot day. “Here Mommy, I made it myself!” I should have taken the cue and braced myself. But I didn’t, and yup you guessed it.

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It was nasssssty! 

My entire face shrunk in with a shrivel as I squeaked out, “Thanks, honey. You’re the best.” You know what the problem was? All lemons. No sugar. Bad combo.

You can’t make good lemonade with just lemons!

Understandably, life is not always pleasant. Bad times, aka lemons, always seem to sprout when and where we least want them. But the lemons are not the problems by themselves. It’s how we prepare the lemons that make the difference. Some of us pick the lemons just to suck on them. All we can do is suck the sour out of the situation. Tell everyone how bad it is. Express how it can never ever get better. Repeatedly. Confirm our suspicions on the fact that we have the worst problem ever. Lemons really do suck. I am tired of the face shrivel and overall displeasure of living in such a way. Aren’t you?

So let’s make that lemonade…a New and Improved lemonade.

First, cut up the lemons. Take your problem and cut it down to size. Most often any problem will overwhelm us if we continue to look at it as a mountain, but if we can break it down step by step, we can conquer Everest a bit at a time.freedigitalphotos.net, piyato

Next, add some water. Water for us can represent clarity and common sense. Both items in a crisis are very hard to deliver to oneself if you are the one in crisis. Get a friend, a wise friend (not the one that you only want to come around when he gets a double-dog dare). Share the problem with her and see if she can offer a sensible step or maybe even a whole different perspective. Word to the wise here: don’t use too much water or in our case don’t tell too many people or harass those one or two friends repeatedly just because you have some lemons. Remember, they’re just here to help. It’s your lemons. It’s your lemonade.

Sugar-1Thirdly, and most important in my world, ADD SOME SUGAR! For the love of all things sweet, add some sugar. Life is easier to handle when you can laugh at yourself or the situation. Give or serve someone else who is worse off than you are. Taking your eyes off of yourself can help you gain a greater perspective. Gratitude is also a way to sweeten an otherwise wearisome task. Have you ever tried to give thanks in every situation, no matter what? Challenging at times yes, but always an option…if you really want to make things better. Find a way to sweeten your situation.

Next to last, add some ice. Ice cools things down. Maybe in your life crisis, you need to step away from it. Let it cool down. Let yourself cool down. Take a vacation, even if it’s just a cold drink, to relax and refocus. I personally pray. I actually pray first which would be like adding the ice first which is fine to me because I love a good, cold lemonade. If you do pray, let me just suggest that you check out who you’re praying to. Prayer in itself is good; prayer to Someone who could actually make a difference is better.

Finally, shake or stir it up. Do something about it. You see the steps, now take them. A lot of times we want others to do our work for us or fix our problem or scrub our houses. Oops, sorry, the house comment was for another blog. Check Just Peachie’s 31 day challenges for that. Anyway, learn to become the key to your own success. And most often success comes by working at a task until it is done to perfection.

Kinda like lemonade. If you’re going to make it, make it good. I mean, you’re going to get lemons anyway, whether you like it or not. That really is life. You can’t throw those sour moments away, but you can make lemonade…some of the best lemonade you’ve ever had. You may be surprised just how sweet the outcome will be.

Try it today: Cut your life issue down to manageable parts, get a wise friend to help, find some sort of good in that moment in that situation, let it chill, then do something to work it out. You may just rediscover how good life can taste.freedigitalimages.net, dusky

You keep connecting and I’ll keep staying,

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Appeteaser: Today’s Special, 2 for 1

I need people.

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And that annoys me.

Told you I would be honest.

Not annoying like people bother me; they don’t. I love people! I love you…probably. The fact that I need you though, makes life more difficult for me to be perfect. Oh, yeah, and the best. I want to be the best. In everything. So when I enter into a situation where someone else adds to my life, I get…

Annoyed.

Annoyed that I wasn’t complete before I met that person. Annoyed that he knew something I didn’t. Annoyed because now I feel as if I have to somehow add back to her life, too. Annoyed that I am not an island.

Annoyed and Grateful.

Grateful for the reminder that I am not perfect…so I can RELAX!

Grateful that I am still learning, still growing, and I’m not done yet.

Grateful because if I need someone, then someone else needs me, too.

Grateful because I am not alone.

We were never meant to go through this life by ourselves. And no I don’t mean married, either. We need to foster relationships on every level because those relationships add to, pull out of, and yes at times chisel away at us thereby shaping the very person we are becoming. And to stay ‘in shape’ I need you to help work me out.

And you need me, too.

Isn’t that annoying?

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It’s a 2 for 1 deal. We are all created to thrive–you for me and me for you. All relationships, even the bad ones, can be used to strengthen and shape our lives. This week. let’s embrace this truth, connect with somebody, and let them connect with you. Help shape someone, and let the shaping happen in you as well. 2 lives changed for the price of 1.

No annoyance required.

You keep connecting and I’ll stay,

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What’s new on the ME{N}U?

The Big Question: What’s new on the ME{N}U?

The answer: Everything.

Welcome to Just Peachie’s blog I affectionately call the ME{N})U!

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Did you read that right? No, not the menu.

The ME{N}U…the Me and YOU!

We are here enjoying these words together because as you read, I leave a little of me here with you. So we’re together, me and you (ME{N}U). My hope is that when we are done, we will have connected (me and you), we will be inspired (me and you), we will think (me and you), we will learn (me and you) we will laugh, (me and you), and we will grow, (me and you.)

So what is on the ME{N}U?
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On this ME{N}U, we’re going to focus on SOUL FOOD, but not the kind you eat. The kind you live. Now I will post food related things only because, let’s be honest, I like to eat! I am a hopeless pinterest addict and through so many others there is a recipe or food related item that will correspond to everything I write. I also believe that food and life go hand in hand. Birthdays bring cakes. Parties bring appetizers. Holidays bring calories…I mean food traditions. Life. Food. Together. Eat up both!

And who is this who decides the ME{N}U?

To quote one of my favorite movies, (imagine now an English accent) “Me! That’s Who!” I, Just Peachie, must warn you that I am no expert. I got me some edumacation (yes, I did that on purpose. I know how to use spell check). But I want to assure you that whatever comes from this site, comes from me, personally, and hopefully from…

YOU!

I want to hear what you have to say about life. What is life serving you up when we dish on topics? We all have something in common and something to bring into each other’s lives. Like a good meal, life is best when shared with others. That’s the beauty of blogging right?

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So join me as I take bites of life, hopefully not more than I can chew, savor whatever it dishes, and serve tasty tidbits to you as well.

May life come at you new and afresh this week! Until then, we’ll try and stay,

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